Where In Your Life Are You Admitting Defeat?

05/02/2021

Well, here we are in February, the month of love. And it got me thinking about where in my life I need to bring more love. Where do I revert back to thinking habits that aren't helpful to me or those around me and may be attracting things into my life that I don't want? Where in my life do I let my spiritual practise slip and admit defeat?

I didn't have to look very far (yes, even spiritual coaches have to keep working on self-awareness).

Prior to starting my own business seven years ago, I worked full time in childrens' safeguarding for 12 years. I still dedicate time to working in safeguarding.

Now the challenge is that my safeguarding role is a stressful one. It's an environment rife with gossip, negativity and rather large egos. Not to mention the incredibly sad situations the children I work with face.  When I was reflecting on what area of my life I revert back to unhelpful thinking habits, very quickly I realised that this is it. 

Subconsciously I had pretty much accepted that the days I work in safeguarding are days when my spiritual and manifesting practises slip. I'd allow myself all too often to absorb the negative energy around me in that environment and my vibration would take a hit. I'd have to do a lot of work at the end of the day to release the negative thoughts and energy. I had admitted defeat, without even consciously realising it. I was giving my power away in this situation. I don't do that in any other area of my life and it was time to take back my power in this situation too.

But how could I change this habit?

I spent some time journaling and reflecting on why I allow this to happen. And I made a CONSCIOUS decision to change it. I set my alarm for every hour while I was at work, to remind myself to stop, take a deep breath, remind myself of who I am at my core, to become consciously aware of the thoughts I was thinking and to practise gratitude. 

Even in the most stressful situations you can find things to be grateful for. I sat at my desk and felt gratitude for the money I was earning, my car that brought me to work, the fact that I could pay for the petrol to make my car run, the cup of tea in front of me, the dress I was wearing and the fact that I had ordered a new dress on the sale, the receptionist who had smiled at me and said good morning when I arrived....you get the idea.

Genuine gratitude is a sure-fire way to give your vibration an instant boost. It's very difficult to feel angry or grumpy or dissatisfied when you’re thinking of things you are grateful for. Gratitude makes you feel abundant in the here and now and when you feel abundant you give off a vibration of abundance which attracts more abundance into your life. And who doesn't want more abundance, right?!

Are you leading with love?

I also made a conscious decision to bring love into the equation. I reminded myself that everybody is doing the best they can with the knowledge that they have. Until they become conscious thinkers, people can only offer what they have learnt. If they've learnt anger, they offer anger. If they've learnt bitterness, they offer bitterness, if they've learnt selfishness, they offer selfishness. You cannot expect it to be any other way. They can't offer something they do not know. And when you understand that, their actions no longer impact you because you realise it is not about you at all. Now you can start bringing compassion into the situation. The realisation that you ARE a conscious thinker and you can choose how to think about whatever situation you're in and about every person you encounter, is very empowering. Now the power is within you and not within the situation.

I amped up my energy protection practise before work, listened to motivating podcasts on the way to work and cleansed my energy after work. 

Yes, it takes work to change your mindset in situations that usually cause you stress. Yes, it's easier to just allow yourself to get swept up in the negative thinking and block it out by binge-ing on Netflix and chocolate. But the rewards for consciously choosing better feeling thoughts and actions are IMMENSE. You will very quickly start to notice good things manifesting for you. People, situations and all the components of the life you want will become available to you. You will step into your natural power and start to live the best damn life you could dream of.

So I challenge you to ask yourself where in your life you're admitting defeat and allowing the situation to rob you of your power? 

Once you have the answer to that question. What are you going to do to change it? What different choices are you going to make?